so i dont believe this posted the first time so i am writing it again..i hate to bvut i need the advise.
I have been with my guy for a year now. For christmas we went to his home town in georgia for two weeks, we are from oklahoma. We have always been a very sexual couple, its never been an issue in our relationship from the start. When going to georgia it seemed as if the second we go there he did not want to have sex with me. In my mind all I could think was this is the town of his enire past life, every girl, relationship, hook up..everything he has ever done exist in the midst of this town. I tried everything, it took three days before i could finally FORCE him into sex. After that first time we were fine, but before that he seemed to find every excuse in the book.
Like i said, we are very sexual..he is now back visiting his family in georgia and he left him computer and cam here. We have really been into the idea of using the camera while he is away for theis brief period. He has been so excited about this idea all week. He arrive there two nights ago..he slept through that first night he was there just resting up..and tonight was our night on the computer. I finally got alone in my room and was prepared to give him the show of his dreams. Next thing i know he is saying he is tired and just going to go to bed! I mean i could blow off one trip and this happening, but a second!? After putting my two cents in h agreed to just go ahead and do it. it was quick as could be. Not even five minutes. Than he got right off..his expression were like nothing.
What could be causing this!? at first i thought maybe cause it is his parents house, but he has done some crazy stuff through out his whole life there..and after staying there those two weeks, it became ovbious that was not the problem..
can anyone think of what it could be!?
Milano
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i think you should rethink the whole parent's house idea because i would be willing to bet money that that's what it is. i really wouldn't worry about it too much if things are fine when he's home.
1If your relationship is otherwise normal I wouldn't put a lot of time in worrying about it. Staying with my parents requires my total attention to survive (you'd have to know them).
2My boyfriend is the same way at his parents' house now. you would think yeah he did all this stuff when he lived with them, but for some reason, it's different now that he doesn't live with them and we go back there and sleep there when we visit.
3Try not to worry unless it gets worse.
actually after reading your "emotionally spent" blog, i think there is a whole lot more going on here. i think this could be a sign of problems in the relationship.
4he may have never actually had sex in his parents place before...a lot of families are fine with their sons/daughters being in an adult relationship outside of home, but will still have their kids sleep in separate rooms with their girlfriends/boyfriends visit (even if they live with them out on their own!). Or he could have a lot of internal issues that happened there, like his parents made sex a big issue, or made it shameful, or they caught him one time...you just never know.
So why not just ask him about it when he gets home, ,make a mature conversation about it, let him know it makes you uneasy and would like him to share with you what's really going on. COMMUNICATION is key! and if you want your rel. to last, it's imperative.
5I think it's only worthworrying about if he's like that at home too. If it's just when visiting his parents then it's probably not a big deal, but if you're worried about it you should talk to him.
6that is a really rude thing to say. you should mind your own business if you're going to have an attitude like that.
7Is that to me? I don't have an attitude about it, but I apologise if it came off that way. Not intentional
8haha! noooooo, not to you, pink!!! they actually deleted the comment i was referring to b/c i reported it. it was really really rude and insensitive. so sorry that you thought i was talking to you. sorry if anyone else thought i was talking to them!
9he has had plenty of sex in his house, he has done alot more there too..his room was bulit into the basement..which isnt underground, its more of a lower level. I know i shouldnt worry but i do. its just, why would he make up excuses? Get so defesive. It only last like two or three days everytime. after that its like there never was a problem and we cant get enough.
what was said it that comment that got deleted if you would please tell me.
10LOL, that's ok.
11Guys are like us...they sometimes have other things on thier minds and dont feel like it. He is in his home town in his parents house and he doesnt want to . you need to be supportive of that and not be so suscpicious. How would you feel if you were at home in your parents house playing in front of a web cam and your mom came in to say goodnight? i realize we are all adults but there is always a part us us that feels like kids when we are back at home.
12maybe he thought you might of gained a few lbs? Or maybe it was the mother thing where he does not want to disappoint his mother if he was ever caught banging -- strange
13If it is only when he visits his parents, I would not lose any sleep over it. There might be a story involving one or both of his parents, that makes him uncomfortable. Let it be, I am guessing some day, maybe not someday soon, but someday, you will hear the entire story.
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